How to Support a Friend with Anxiety
If you have a friend or a family member who has anxiety, you may wonder how you can help them cope and feel better. Here are some ways you can support a friend with anxiety, based on the advice from experts and people who have experienced anxiety themselves.
Anxiety is a common and treatable mental health condition that affects millions of people worldwide. It can cause feelings of nervousness, worry, fear, or panic in response to various situations or events. Anxiety can also affect your physical health, such as causing headaches, nausea, sweating, or trembling.
1) Be empathetic
One of the most important things you can do for a friend with anxiety is to be empathetic. Empathy means putting yourself in their shoes and trying to understand how they feel, without judging or criticizing them. You can show empathy by listening to their concerns, validating their emotions, and expressing your care and concern.
For example, you can say things like:
“I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. It must be really hard.”
“I can see that you’re anxious about this. I’m here for you.”
“You’re not alone. I’m always here to support you.”
Avoid saying things that may sound dismissive, insensitive, or invalidating, such as:
“Just calm down. It’s not a big deal.”
“Don’t worry. Everything will be fine.”
“You’re overreacting. There’s nothing to be afraid of.”
Encourage them to seek help
While your support and empathy can make a difference, sometimes your friend may need professional help to overcome their anxiety. Encourage them to seek help from a therapist, a doctor, or a support group, if their anxiety is severe or interfering with their daily functioning. You can offer to help them find a suitable service, make an appointment, or accompany them to their sessions.
For example, you can say things like:
“Have you thought about talking to someone who can help you with your anxiety?”
“I know a therapist who specializes in anxiety. Would you like me to give you their contact details?”
“There’s a support group for people with anxiety in our area. Do you want to check it out with me?”
Avoid saying things that may sound discouraging, pressuring, or stigmatizing, such as:
“You don’t need therapy. You just need to relax.”
“You have to see a doctor right now. You’re not normal.”
“You’re weak. You should be able to handle this on your own.”
2) Provide practical assistance
Another way you can support a friend with anxiety is to provide practical assistance. This means helping them with tasks or activities that may be difficult or stressful for them, such as running errands, doing chores, or managing finances. You can also help them cope with anxiety-provoking situations, such as preparing for a presentation, going to a social event, or traveling to a new place.
For example, you can say things like:
“I know you’re anxious about going to the dentist. Do you want me to drive you there and wait for you?”
“I know you have a lot on your plate right now. Can I help you with anything?”
“I know you’re nervous about flying. Do you want me to sit next to you and distract you with some games or music?”
Avoid saying things that may sound intrusive, controlling, or enabling, such as:
“I’ll do everything for you. You don’t have to worry about anything.”
“You have to do this. You can’t avoid it forever.”
“It’s okay. You don’t have to face your fears. I’ll protect you.”
3) Be patient and supportive
Finally, be patient and supportive of your friend with anxiety. Remember that anxiety is not something that can be cured overnight. It may take time and effort for your friend to overcome their anxiety and learn to cope better. Don’t expect them to change or improve quickly. Instead, celebrate their small victories and encourage their progress.
For example, you can say things like:
“I’m proud of you for taking this step. You’re doing great.”
“I know this is hard for you. But you’re stronger than you think.”
“You’ve come a long way. I’m happy to see you feeling more confident.”
Avoid saying things that may sound impatient, frustrated, or disappointed, such as:
“Why are you still anxious? You should be over this by now.”
“How many times do I have to tell you? You’re wasting your time.”
“You’re not trying hard enough. You’re letting your anxiety win.”
Remember…
Anxiety is a common and treatable mental health condition that affects millions of people worldwide. If you have a friend or a family member who has anxiety, you can support them by being empathetic, encouraging them to seek help, providing practical assistance, and being patient and supportive. By doing so, you can help them cope and feel better, as well as strengthen your relationship.
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